Workweek Chic: How to Deal with Disappointment at Work

Dress: Halogen (brand has tons of great dresses here) || Necklace: Zenzii || Wedges: J. Crew Factory || Apple Watch with this band

Is it weird if I say that I’ve really been looking forward to today’s post?? I know the topic of “disappointment” doesn’t sound all that uplifting, but stick with me and I promise it will be worth it πŸ™‚

As you may have read here, I recently interviewed for two promotions at work, and after waiting 4 months for an answer on one of them I found out within 20 minutes of each other that I didn’t get either one. Talk about a major disappointment (I had poured my heart & all free time) into both of those interviews so to find out I was 0 for 2… big blow! And sure, I took my 20 minutes of wallowing time (and shed a disappointed tear or two) and then I decided to buck up and use this experience to teach me something! (I’m a dust off your boots and get moving sort of girl if you can’t tell!)

But I learned the past two weeks that I am certainly not the only one who has been through my share of disappointments at the office, so why not share what I learned in hopes that it encourages some of y’all who maybe have gone through this, are going through this, or will (unfortunately) go thorough this in the future.

1. Use that “area of opportunity” to grow

Nowadays they don’t call it criticism… they call it an “area of opportunity”- no matter what you call it, it’s never fun to hear what is, in essence, wrong with you! But this can be a pivotal learning experience if you take that feedback to heart. For instance, one thing I was told was that my voice can sound too child-like and that makes it hard for people to take me seriously (the job I was interviewing for was a manager-level position). While it was no fun to hear that my voice can throw people off, I have been working diligently how how to speak more professionally and self-assured so that I am taken seriously in the office. So if you’ve faced a disappointment, see what you can learn from it and how you can take that learning to make you even more prepared for the next opportunity!

2. Have a positive attitude

“Attitude is everything” is not just a Pinterest quote y’all – it’s the truth! While no one expects you to not react, or feel sad about the disappointment you faced, people also want to see someone who can bounce back and move forward. I almost feel like we make a more impactful impression by how we react to disappointment than how we react when things go great! Truth is, I’ve gotten a lot of compliments and accolades for how I took this news in stride & found the positive in the situation, because it shows my company that I’m not just in it for a new title & a pay raise, I’m truly in it to learn and grow and propel my team forward. I know staying positive is easier said then done, but it’s so important! I actually have been reminding myself that even though I didn’t get promoted, someone else from my level did, and that shows me that there IS opportunity to grow! Whatever you do, turn that frown upside down and find the good πŸ™‚

3. Remember why you love your job

I guess this only really works if you actually love your job- ha! But one thing I’ve been doing is reminding myself that I am in my dream career field, traveling the US and working with vendors around the world, and getting to discover new brands and products to bring to my customer – and that’s pretty darn cool! While I would have loved that promotion & the new area of responsibility, at the end of the day I am still getting to work on something that “lights my fire” and get’s me excited when the alarm starts beeping at 4:30am! So when days are hard, remember why you do what you do & the things you love about your current position- I bet that will help you get that positive attitude!

Dress: Halogen (brand has tons of great dresses here) || Necklace: Zenzii || Wedges: J. Crew Factory || Apple Watch with this band

I hope these tips were helpful to you! I’m certainly not an expert of disappointment (nor do I really want to be-ha) but these three simple things have really helped me cope & learn from my experience so that I can be a better employee moving forward. As I told my boss the other day, I want to be the next person in line & top of everyone’s mind when the next opportunity opens up!

Have you faced disappointment at work? How did you cope?

15 Comments

  1. February 21, 2018 / 7:18 am

    All great tips girl! It’s definitely disappointing to get passed up for a promotion, especially when you worked so hard for it, but everything happens for a reason!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      February 21, 2018 / 9:30 pm

      It most certainly does!

  2. February 21, 2018 / 8:31 am

    Well….. you look pretty as always and I love love your words of encouragement ! Yes, I’ve been through disappointment and it’s not always fun but I walked away learning a lot as well. Your advice #3 , remember why you love your job is sooooo important ! This is a wonderful post, thank you for sharing these great tips ! Happy Wednesday !

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      February 21, 2018 / 9:30 pm

      Thank you for you kind and thoughtful encouragement Tammy! So appreciate of you!

  3. February 21, 2018 / 8:40 am

    I am so sorry to hear that you did not get the promotions. They really passed over a great gal, but I know something better will come along for you. You look fabulous in this cute dress and I love that necklace! Keep at it Gentry!
    xo, Whitney and Blaire
    Peaches In A Pod

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      February 21, 2018 / 9:29 pm

      Appreciate your kind words and support SO much friends!! XO

  4. February 21, 2018 / 8:44 am

    This is such a fun post. I love your dress – your site is so fun. I am glad you left a comment on mine!

  5. February 21, 2018 / 9:36 am

    It’s so true! I’ve had a few setbacks in my career over the past year. Attitude is so important and moving forward. I’ve always stuck with a positive attitude and eventually moved further in my career.
    P.S. love the dress!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      February 21, 2018 / 9:31 pm

      So glad to hear there is a light at the end of the tunnel πŸ™‚ You go girl moving on up!!

  6. February 21, 2018 / 8:31 pm

    Sending you all the hugs sweet friend! But loving these tips. Attitude is most certainly everything!
    Green Fashionista

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      February 21, 2018 / 9:32 pm

      It definitely is! Makes such a difference!

  7. February 22, 2018 / 4:47 pm

    This is a great post! I love that you’re able to look on the positive side of things. I’ll have to bookmark this to remind myself to do the same!

    Kristin
    stripesandsangria.blogspot.com

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      February 22, 2018 / 9:00 pm

      I don’t want to fool you into thinking it’s easy… that it is not!! But it’s definitely the way to go if you want to keep moving on with a smile on your face πŸ™‚

  8. February 23, 2018 / 10:19 am

    This is a great post, thank you for sharing this learning experience. Sending all of the positive thoughts your way!I love that you used this as a dust off the boots and keep going! You’re an amazing woman!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      February 23, 2018 / 1:45 pm

      Thank you Laura!! I appreciate your encouragement!

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