Is it weird if I say that I’ve really been looking forward to today’s post?? I know the topic of “disappointment” doesn’t sound all that uplifting, but stick with me and I promise it will be worth it 🙂
As you may have read here, I recently interviewed for two promotions at work, and after waiting 4 months for an answer on one of them I found out within 20 minutes of each other that I didn’t get either one. Talk about a major disappointment (I had poured my heart & all free time) into both of those interviews so to find out I was 0 for 2… big blow! And sure, I took my 20 minutes of wallowing time (and shed a disappointed tear or two) and then I decided to buck up and use this experience to teach me something! (I’m a dust off your boots and get moving sort of girl if you can’t tell!)
But I learned the past two weeks that I am certainly not the only one who has been through my share of disappointments at the office, so why not share what I learned in hopes that it encourages some of y’all who maybe have gone through this, are going through this, or will (unfortunately) go thorough this in the future.
1. Use that “area of opportunity” to grow
Nowadays they don’t call it criticism… they call it an “area of opportunity”- no matter what you call it, it’s never fun to hear what is, in essence, wrong with you! But this can be a pivotal learning experience if you take that feedback to heart. For instance, one thing I was told was that my voice can sound too child-like and that makes it hard for people to take me seriously (the job I was interviewing for was a manager-level position). While it was no fun to hear that my voice can throw people off, I have been working diligently how how to speak more professionally and self-assured so that I am taken seriously in the office. So if you’ve faced a disappointment, see what you can learn from it and how you can take that learning to make you even more prepared for the next opportunity!
2. Have a positive attitude
“Attitude is everything” is not just a Pinterest quote y’all – it’s the truth! While no one expects you to not react, or feel sad about the disappointment you faced, people also want to see someone who can bounce back and move forward. I almost feel like we make a more impactful impression by how we react to disappointment than how we react when things go great! Truth is, I’ve gotten a lot of compliments and accolades for how I took this news in stride & found the positive in the situation, because it shows my company that I’m not just in it for a new title & a pay raise, I’m truly in it to learn and grow and propel my team forward. I know staying positive is easier said then done, but it’s so important! I actually have been reminding myself that even though I didn’t get promoted, someone else from my level did, and that shows me that there IS opportunity to grow! Whatever you do, turn that frown upside down and find the good 🙂
3. Remember why you love your job
I guess this only really works if you actually love your job- ha! But one thing I’ve been doing is reminding myself that I am in my dream career field, traveling the US and working with vendors around the world, and getting to discover new brands and products to bring to my customer – and that’s pretty darn cool! While I would have loved that promotion & the new area of responsibility, at the end of the day I am still getting to work on something that “lights my fire” and get’s me excited when the alarm starts beeping at 4:30am! So when days are hard, remember why you do what you do & the things you love about your current position- I bet that will help you get that positive attitude!
I hope these tips were helpful to you! I’m certainly not an expert of disappointment (nor do I really want to be-ha) but these three simple things have really helped me cope & learn from my experience so that I can be a better employee moving forward. As I told my boss the other day, I want to be the next person in line & top of everyone’s mind when the next opportunity opens up!
Have you faced disappointment at work? How did you cope?