I’ve been having so much fun lately diving a little “deeper” on here and including more heart talks with your daily dose of fashion – I hope you’re enjoying them too!
Today’s heart top really did inspire me to have this “heart to heart” and talk about why vulnerability matters in relationships. You see, I totally have a tendency to keep the bad/stress/negative all bottled up and to only highlight the good & happy. I’m a very positive person and pretty plucky in my outlook, so usually I can take a punch and keep on rolling, but that doesn’t mean things don’t hurt me or that I don’t have feelings. And for a long time it was easy for me to tell my girls, “oh I’m great! Yeah that deadline coming up in two days- no biggie, I’ve got it under control!” When really I was internally crumbling under the pressure of it all.
But something about turning 30 has made me (or at least helped me) to take down the facade and just be real and vulnerable with my girls. That doesn’t mean you have to turn your girls night into a dump fest of everything going haywire in your life, but it does mean that you can be open and honest with people. “Things are going great, but I have been worried lately about some competing deadlines and I am still struggling with learning to tell people no or not now.” See? All of a sudden you’re sharing that your not perfect- which invites others to let down their guards and share their imperfects too!
I think it just continues to be hard to be vulnerable in an age where IG has become a defining standard on what a happy life should look like. All of a sudden you feel incredibly less than if your life doesn’t measure up to that curated feed! And then we want to hide the feelings that make us less than… it’s a vicious cycle! But today I encourage you to embrace ALL your feeling and don’t be afraid to share them. I promise it will do wonders for your friendships!