I was reading one of my favorite blogs this week, The Stripe by Grace Atwood, and she touched on a subject that just got me FIRED UP y’all! (Not because of her feelings on it, lol, but because it’s happened to me SO many times!) I commented on her post and loved reading though everyone’s responses, but I also felt like I had so much more on my heart to share. So welcome to today’s “Heart to Heart Talk” post (a new idea I just made up while writing this!)
As most of y’all know (although I don’t talk about it often) I am S-I-N-G-L-E… and have been for a few years now. Although I’ve dated some (oh so many 1st dates) none have really stuck and alas I’m a single gal still! And you also know, I am one busy girl! I have a full time job, the blog, am a past-president of a large local non-profit, president-elect for another non-profit, auction co-chair for the Heart Gallery (a 3rd non-profit), a dog mom, a sister, a best friend… you get the idea! 🙂 Oh yeah, and I’m obsessed with traveling and have been on the go almost every other week!
And I love it! I love every busy, hectic, frantic, crazy, fulfilling minute of it.
But, a lot of people don’t understand it. If I had a dollar for every time that someone told me, “If you’d just slow down you’d meet someone…” well friends I would have enough dollars to hire Patty Stanger to Millionaire Matchmaker me and I wouldn’t still be single! haha. But truly, on almost a weekly, sometimes daily basis I am told that I need to slow down & that I’m standing in my own way of meeting someone.
AND THAT GET’S ME ALL FIRED UP! (Sorry for the all caps but I’m so passionate about this!)
Because for a long time, I tried to “slow down” and stay home more often, and do the bar scene and the Sunday Funday scene, and you know what? It wasn’t what fulfilled me! I’m not a homebody by nature… I’m a busy bee! And I’ve got a case of wanderlust that can’t be contained. So awhile ago I decided to stop treating being single like a curse, and instead take it as a blessing and a time when I have virtually no-strings attached so I can purse the things that bring me joy. And so I volunteer, I write a blog, I’m involved in leadership, I travel, I attend every girl’s night out I can, I never turn down and invitation, and I’m living it up.
And while being busy and on-the-go may not have brought me a man (I mean, is that really all it’s about?!) it has brought me fulfillment and happiness and joy. Everything I’m involved in challenges me in new and different ways. I’m constantly learning, meeting new people, discovering my strengths and weaknesses, finding my voice, and learning just who I am. If I just “slowed down” I never would have learned the many facets that make me, ME! And when the time comes that I (hopefully!) meet that special man, I’m going to be a better, stronger, happier version of myself than I ever would have been if I slowed down. I’m so glad that my future guy get to meet this version of me 🙂
So now I’m dying to hear from y’all!! What do you think about this idea that single girls should “slow down?” Do you have any experience with it? I want to hear ALL your thoughts on the subject!!