How I Stay Positive

As a girl who always sees the glass of life half-full, I’m sharing my tips on how to stay positive!

“Palm Springs” Tee || Pink Ruffle Skirt (Similar Linked) || Nude Wedges || Apple Watch

Hey y’all! Happiest of Mondays! I know last week was a bit quiet around here- so thank you for bearing with me through the business that was my work week šŸ™‚ Sometimes other things just have to take the back burner so I can focus on my #1 responsibility which is my 9-5! I do have to say though, that it sure feels great to get back into the swing of things today. So much fun to share with y’all!

I figured there was no better way to start the week than by chatting about something so important to me- looking on the bright side of things šŸ™‚ I know that some people are naturally optimists and some are pessimists (and there is nothing wrong with either of course!) But I do believe that we can hone our thoughts and reactions to lean one way or the other and we can teach ourselves to see more positives than negatives. So, today I’m sharing the ways that I stay positive and what that looks like lived out in my day to day!

ONE: UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAPPINESS AND JOY

Oh me, oh my- this is one of the most important lessons I learned a few years ago and to this day it has stuck with me and grounded my thought-life. It sounds simple, but it’s a groundbreaking idea- there is a distinct difference between happiness and joy. Simply put, happiness is conditional; it’s an emotional reaction to something that is happening to us (getting a promotion, finding a pair of shoes on sale, winning a football game, etc). As circumstances change and new things happen to us, you may find that your reaction is no longer one of happiness. But does a happy or unhappy situation mean that you are with out joy? NO!

Joy isn’t conditional and doesn’t stem from emotions or circumstances. Joy comes from knowing who we are, what we want, and (for me) knowing that I am a daughter of God. Whether you are grounded in the Christian faith or not, knowing the profound truth of who you are at the core & what you stand for gives joy that isn’t dependent on other people or circumstances. So, when ever I find myself unhappy I am quick to reset my mind to remind myself that while the situation may not be making me happy- I am still living a life filled with joy!

TWO: IN HARD TIMES, ASK MYSELF “WHAT IS THIS TEACHING ME?”

I know, I know… going through tough stuff is no fun and can be downright hurtful, painful, and dark. And while I keep it light and happy around these parts I’ve had my moments of despair just like anyone else. After I remind myself that I’m in an unhappy circumstance but a joyful life, I then ask myself, “what is this teaching me?” While I don’t really love the hard knock way of learning, when I start to understand how a situation is growing my character, emotions, and relationships it allows me to be thankful & grateful even in the midst of hardship.

THREE: FIND JOY IN THE LITTLE THINGS

This is a reminder/trick that I use ALL the time to bring a dose of joy to my day and to help me to stay positive… think about all the little things you are grateful for! I mean, I’m almost always thankful for a good cup of coffee (or three!) in the mornings… šŸ™‚ Seriously though, if you slow down and take account of all the small moments & things that fill our lives, oftentimes you will find that there is SO much to be grateful for and that attitude of gratitude just spills over to all things in your path!

FOUR: EMBRACE THE CURRENT STAGE OF MY JOURNEY/LOVE WHERE YOU ARE

There may be moments when I want to be in a different stage of life already, sometimes I’m thinking “just get me there already!” And when I’m fighting against where I’m at those are the times when I find myself fighting to stay positive. But when I stop and embrace the current stage of my journey- I mean really get grateful for where I’m at and what God is working at in my life- I find that I can’t help but be filled with both happiness and joy! If you are always looking at your circumstances with a frown, it’s sure going to be hard to enjoy it! But when you can see it for the growth opportunity it is (and the stepping stone to where you want to be) it helps me to embrace the journey and find ways to love each and every moment of my story! One of my favorite reminders is this “Life’s to short to not love the story God has planned for you.” I constantly remind myself that each moment is something special that God is using to ink my chapter, my narrative, and my unique book. Gosh I can’t wait to see what comes next!

“Palm Springs” Tee || Pink Ruffle Skirt (Similar Linked) || Nude Wedges || Apple Watch

Friends I hope this post was helpful for you and that you maybe gained a fresh perspective! If you have ideas on staying positive be sure to share them in the comments below- I love to hear from y’all! šŸ™‚

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27 Comments

  1. April 29, 2019 / 9:45 am

    Thank you for this post. I need this reminder today!! Thank you thank you thank you.

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 29, 2019 / 10:21 pm

      That makes me so happy! So glad to be able to help!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 29, 2019 / 10:22 pm

      Yes girl- I feel the same way!

  2. Anna English
    April 29, 2019 / 10:13 am

    #4 is hands down my favorite and such a GOOD reminder!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 29, 2019 / 10:20 pm

      I am so very glad Anna! šŸ™‚

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 29, 2019 / 10:22 pm

      Yay! It’s such a great little skirt!

  3. April 29, 2019 / 2:00 pm

    You are always so positive and I need to take these tips to heart. I could use some more joy and positivity in my life!

    -Morgan
    How 2 Wear It [] http://how2wearit.com

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 29, 2019 / 10:20 pm

      So glad to be able to help!

  4. Stephanie
    April 29, 2019 / 6:24 pm

    Oh my goodness how I love love LOVE this post. Your JOY is contagious! I remember when I learned the difference between joy and happiness and it was really life-altering (in a good way). And knowing my JOY is rooted in the One who saved me – WOW that is so comforting. Thank you for sharing!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 29, 2019 / 10:23 pm

      Amen Stephanie!! šŸ™‚ When our Joy is rooted in the Lord there is a whole new level of hope and happiness for us!

  5. Biana
    April 29, 2019 / 8:26 pm

    I’ve said this before, but you truly are a ray of sunshine! I can’t help but smile when I see your photos! xo, Biana

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 29, 2019 / 8:28 pm

      You are so kind friend!! Thank you for the ongoing encouragement šŸ™‚

  6. April 29, 2019 / 10:46 pm

    You have such a joyful spirit! These are all such great tips.

  7. ashley hargrove
    April 30, 2019 / 9:44 am

    This outfit is absolutely adorable on you! I just love that you styled a cute tee with a fun skirt for spring!! And thank you for sharing your positivity tips! You are such an amazing person!!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      May 2, 2019 / 9:31 am

      You’re too kind- thank you!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      May 2, 2019 / 9:30 am

      Thank you so much Tanvi! Have a wonderful day!

  8. April 30, 2019 / 12:31 pm

    Love your point about little things. Being able to value those help your days be happier. My mom calls me a “lover of life’s little things,” so that’s my blog tagline!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      May 2, 2019 / 9:31 am

      That is such a perfect “tagline”- I love it!

  9. May 1, 2019 / 10:00 am

    Thanks for sharing! It’s always hard, but I know it’s important to keep in mind the positive parts of life even when we are at our lows.
    Chic on the Cheap

  10. May 2, 2019 / 12:37 am

    You always have the most positive smile dear! Always love your fun photos. Thanks for this lovely read.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  11. May 2, 2019 / 9:40 am

    Girl, you are too cute!! I’m loving your outfit and great tips on how to stay positive!! You definitely radiate positivity!

    xo, Laura

  12. May 3, 2019 / 6:31 pm

    I love this color combo! You exude happiness!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      May 5, 2019 / 2:51 pm

      Thank you so much Alyssa!

  13. Kelsey
    May 6, 2019 / 3:48 pm

    You are so darn cute and tase are SUCH great tips!! Thanks for sharing!!

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