Wedding Wednesday: YOUR Advice for a New Bride to Be

Kicking off Wedding Wednesday by sharing your best advice for a new bride to be!

Hi friends! I’m beyond excited to kick off Wedding Wednesday with something really fun! I’ve read all about other people’s weddings for years (what can I say, I love LOVE :)) so it feels so surreal still to be getting to finally share my own wedding with y’all!

A few days after we got engaged I posed the question on Instagram: what is your best advice for a new bride to be? And y’all had the BEST answers and I just knew I could not keep all that wisdom to my self! So I thought it would be a good reminder to myself, and great advice for anyone else who’s newly engaged, to share the responses! To protect people’s privacy I’m going to share the responses with out names, and I’ll add some of my own comments where I have them 🙂 let’s get into it!

“Enjoy your engagement before wedding planning; let it soak in!! Congrats!”

(We took about a week to enjoy our engagement before kicking off planning, but because we are aiming for April 2020 we can’t wait too long to get started!)

“Step 1: hire a wedding planner! Best money we spent”

(Working on it- I realize I can’t do this alone!)

“Enjoy the process, stress as little as you can. Any little thing that feels like the world now will pass in a blur so breathe deeply and enjoy EVERYTHING! XOXO”

“Don’t lose YOU in the planning. Keep the focus on your love for one another.”

“Get a wedding planner! It was a lifesaver for me!”

(Very popular advice – I’m listening!)

“My mom was really excited and wanted to help which was great but overwhelming me, so I let her run with a particular project (hotel bags). They turned out AMAZING!”

“Engagement and wedding planning goes too fast- enjoy it!”

“This is about a marriage not a wedding. Don’t sweat the small stuff.”

(Amen! Great advice!)

“Enjoy it and relax! It can get to be too much at times but remember the why and it all works out.”

“Use spreadsheets, take it one day at a time, and don’t stress!”

“Best tip I got- nothing matters more than the person you’re marrying. Focus on each other. Also marriage prep with my church was amazing and so helpful!”

(Great advice! We actually started a pre-marriage class while dating as our church does one for seriously dating and engaged couples. Funny story- we got engaged the same day as one of our classmates! It’s been an amazing thing for our relationship in general and I highly reckoned it!)

“Remember it’s your day- do what makes you happy- you won’t please everyone”

“Create a wedding email so you don’t have post wedding spam in your daily email.”

“Do what you want! Everyone and their mama will have an opinion. Don’t be afraid to say no!”

“Elope! Expenses add up quickly. ?

(Ha! Not an option for us, but don’t think it hasn’t crossed my mind to run off to Mexico and just do it!)

“Just be PRESENT! It all goes by so fast, especially the day of. Enjoy every second!”

Such great advice and wisdom right?! Y’all always blow me away and I’m so thankful for the counsel of those who’ve been there before. Definitely a lot of advice I’m taking to heart as we kick off the wedding planning journey.

As always, I love hearing from y’all, so if you have additional advice- please share it in the comments so we can all learn together!



  1. November 13, 2019 / 10:40 am

    Great idea on crowd sourcing! I totally agree with the advice to focus on the marriage not the wedding. The wedding will come together, and no one notices those tiny details that you stress over. The simpler the better! Also, don’t feel obligated to do traditions just because they are traditional. I HIGHLY recommend taking most of your photos before the wedding. Either that or feed/have very entertaining entertainment for your guests during that longggg cocktail hour. We took our photos before, including a first look, and it was still special walking down the aisle. Just a few photos after with grandparents, and signing the marriage certificate, etc. That was 10/10 the best thing we did!

    • girlmeetsbow
      November 19, 2019 / 6:22 am

      Thank you for the advice! We appreciate the insight 🙂

  2. Biana
    November 14, 2019 / 7:44 pm

    Such sound advice!! I think this can be an overwhelming time and to remember that it’s more than just the wedding day – it’s your entire life ahead…so that’s the fun part! xo, Biana –BlovedBoston

    • girlmeetsbow
      November 14, 2019 / 10:58 pm

      That is definitely the most fun part! Thank you for the perspective!

  3. November 16, 2019 / 11:39 am

    oh man, such a fun time for you guys! my advice is to spend good money on a photographer and videographer. also, don’t be afraid to be assertive in your planning. I kind of assumed that our planners and vendors would get my vision and I could be more hands-off, but if there’s something that’s important to you – stay on it to make sure you are happy. above all, couldn’t agree more with the advice that it’s about the marriage not the wedding. AMEN! congrats, again!

    • girlmeetsbow
      November 19, 2019 / 6:25 am

      Thank you Lauren! Such insightful advice! We just hired a wedding planner!

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