How to Find Contentment in Being Single

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Good Morning sweet friends! Over the weekend I opened up my Instagram for an “Ask Me Anything” series (the first time I’ve ever done something like that) and I had so much fun answering everyone’s questions and letting y’all get to know me better! One of the questions I received was a “big one” and i felt like trying to condense it on an IG story slide or in a few verbal frames wasn’t gone to do the answer justice- so I’m taking to the blog and sharing my thoughts on something I know I battled with – “How did you find contentment in being single?”

For a little backstory (if you’re new around here), I was in a long-term relationship for about 6 years from college to a few years past. When that relationship ended the Lord really did some work on my heart and to do so I was single for about 4 years. I’ve written a lot on different aspects of that journey- but I don’t know that I ever addressed this point about singleness and I thought it was a great question. What’s crazy is that I can pinpoint the exact moment that was a turning point for me in becoming content with being single!

About 2 years into being single (and not seeing a prospect in sight!) my bible study ready an amazing book called “The Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free.” There was a specific chapter where the author focus on our “calling” and poised a question/truth that shook me to my core: What if the Lord’s calling isn’t for everyone to ____?” (Fill in the blank!) Within the chapter she specifically focused on “what if every woman’s calling isn’t to become a wife in a mother?” Y’all that was NOT what I wanted to hear and it made me MAD! I almost stopped reading the book and told my group that this woman didn’t know what she was talking about.

But then, I re-read the chapter… and the rest of the chapter and truth. It came down to this: the truth is that everyone’s calling isn’t to become a wife and a mother (or a CEO, or a celebrity… i mean this can apply to so many things!). And this is because the Lord could have a different calling for your life that needs you to be single in order to accomplish. And what i learned when I let God work on that truth in my life, was that if I sat on the sidelines of my life, waiting to become a wife and a mom (which wasn’t guaranteed!) I could be missing out on the Lord’s entire purpose for my life! And I didn’t want to get to the end of my days, look back, and realized I missed out on my entire life because I was pouting about what wasn’t instead of embracing what was.

And when I let God work through that truth in my heart and in my life, he started to do BIG work! Since I loved children and wasn’t a mom, I volunteered in my church nursery where I was able to love on children and provide a safe place for them while their parents attended service. While I wasn’t a wife, I helped to celebrate each of my friends that was and soaked up every girls night possible! I said yes to adventures, girl’s trips, travel- everything! And I chased after the Lord with everything I had! And in this, I found myself content with my life, and yes, singleness.

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I hope this helps you if you are struggling with contentment in any area of your life! It is certainty not easy (it was a 2 year journey for me to get to a place of true contentment) but it was so worth it to understand that true peace comes from knowing God and trusting his timing and plans in our life.

PS- If you’re interested in the other questions that were asked during the series- I created a highlight that you can check out on my IG here: ASK ME ANYTHING.

Love y’all big!!

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7 Comments

  1. April 13, 2020 / 8:21 am

    Love this so much friend!! God blessed you so much in your single years and I love now getting to see the next chapter of your story. 🙂 You sharing this part of your life is such encouragement to single gals like myself!

    xoxo A
    http://www.southernbelleintraining.com

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 15, 2020 / 5:38 am

      I am so so glad that this was an encouragement to you!

  2. Biana
    April 13, 2020 / 10:01 am

    I love your darling dress! The scallops are too cute! I could have used this post when I was single – I did have a hard time with it when I first moved to Boston. xo, Biana BlovedBoston

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 17, 2020 / 6:04 am

      It’s all what you make it- so glad you’re finding joy!

  3. April 14, 2020 / 9:15 pm

    I completely and whole-heartedly agree. When I was wallowing, I wasn’t happy with myself. When you’re not happy with yourself, there’s no room to invite a romantic relationship in. Thanks for sharing your story!

    • girlmeetsbow
      Author
      April 23, 2020 / 10:10 am

      You hit the nail on the head! Thank you for sharing your experience!

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