You’re Postponing Your Wedding, Now What?!

The first 5 things you need to do when deciding to postpone your wedding due to COVID-19.

Engagement Photos from the incredible Katie Hauburger Photography!

My dress: Target

Good Morning! Today’s post is one that I was so hoping I wouldn’t have to write, but last week we ultimately made the decision to postpone our May wedding in the interest of safety for our family and friends. We are so looking forward to the day we can celebrate with everyone!

Throughout this time I’ve been lucky enough to connect with so many brides-to-be who are in the same situation and I thought it would be helpful today to talk about the “what” when you decide to postpone your wedding- as in the practical steps that you need to take next. I know that I always do better when I have a plan and can start taking action steps- so these are the steps we took once we decided to postpone our wedding due to COVID-19.

Note: I should add that we have an incredible wedding planning team at Coastal Coordinating who are helping us with each of these steps! You can read more about why we decided to hire a wedding planner in this post! 🙂


I guess this kind of sounds like a funny step – but the first thing we talked about was whether we still wanted to get married on our original wedding date, or did we want to wait until our postponed wedding ceremony? For Rob and I, when we thought about what mattered most to us from our wedding day it was the act of truly getting married, becoming one, and starting our little family of two! So we decided that we wanted to move forward with getting married on our original date and then, in essence, having a second wedding where we would be able to celebrate with all our family & friends! This was far and away the best decision for us; by keeping our original wedding date we have something that we are still SO excited about and looking forward to! {Although now we’re planning a 2nd wedding in 30 days (since we can have about 10 of our family and friends there)… let’s go!!}


This is probably the biggest determination of when you’re new wedding date will be- the availability of your wedding venue! We have so many out of town guests that we were really set on a Saturday if at all possible. We reached out and our venue had one Saturday between now & July 2021… needless to say we jumped on it! August 2020… we cant wait for you!! 🙂 Since you will have both new brides and postponed brides trying to schedule wedding dates, you will want to take care of this asap!


Once you have a new date secured you’ll want to reach out to the balance of your vendors to see if they are still available on your new date. This includes catering, photography, videography, DJ, etc. If they are available it’s usually a simple matter of moving over your deposit to the new date and updating your contract!

A few notes here:

– Most vendors have experienced significant loss of income through this time, so each one may handle your deposits differently. Some may move out remaining payments and some may still ask for them on the original due dates. Keep that in mind when reaching out!

– We were incredibly lucky that every one of our vendors was still available so we didn’t need to get any money back -in fact we are leveraging many of our vendors for additional services at our smaller wedding so we actually were able to give them more business 🙂 BUT, if you do have to cancel your contract you’ll want to talk about if it’s possible to get your money back (or at least a portion of it). I know every vendor is handling this differently!


Once you’ve got your new date secured and sorted out you’re going to want to let your guests know! We just sent out “Change the Dates” letting everyone know our new date and requesting updates RSVPs. Since we did our originally wedding stationary through Zola (still need to share that with y’all!) they were kind enough to give us complimentary change the dates (which was amazing!). Of course I have to recommend those 🙂 But Minted, Zazzle, and Zola all have great options and quick shipping to you can get the info out asap!


Finally, you will want to decide how to track new RSVP’s! In our original invitations we did paper/mailed rsvp cards. While we loved them they are not cheap! So for our updated rsvps we asked that everyone visit our wedding website and update their information. We just added the site & request to our change the dates and were ready to go!

I hope this was helpful friends! this is such an unprecedented and unusual time, but I take comfort in knowing that we are ALL in this together and can support each other. Love y’all bunches!


Engagement Photos from the incredible Katie Hauburger Photography!

My dress: Target



  1. April 30, 2020 / 4:54 pm

    Wow, how amazing that there was only one Saturday left for y’all! That’s so exciting that you kept your original date too! Glad everything’s working out for you two!!

    Kaitlyn | Oh, the Places We’ll Go!

    • girlmeetsbow
      May 13, 2020 / 5:44 am

      Thank you so much! We are really so thankful and feel like we ended up with the best of both worlds!

  2. April 30, 2020 / 9:05 pm

    I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this during what is supposed to be such a joyful time! It seems like you both have the best attitude possible. You are so right that getting married is what matters. It’s a great idea to go ahead and get married and party later!! I think it will make the celebration that much sweeter. Wishing you two nothing but the best! I’d frame every single picture here by the way.

    • girlmeetsbow
      May 13, 2020 / 5:48 am

      Thank you sweet friend! We are so excited and finding so much joy in this season!

  3. May 1, 2020 / 12:00 pm

    First of all, these pictures turned out beautifully. You both look so happy that I couldn’t help but smile. Secondly, that’s a great decision to move forward with your original “wedding” date. It will be a spectacular day because it’s a day of love. Lastly, yay for locking down a different day to celebrate with family and friends. That’s really awesome and looking forward to seeing your updates. I hope your day is going well so far and happy Friday!

    Maureen |

    • girlmeetsbow
      May 7, 2020 / 11:49 am

      Thank you so very much! We are getting soooooo excited that our big day will be here so soon!

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