Ive always heard that when you turn 30 you all of a sudden let go of all sorts of “things.” While I won’t say it was an instantaneous ah-hah moment, over the last year I’ve found myself letting go of a whole lot of stuff that used to really weigh me down– and embracing the what is moments of my present! So today I thought it would be fun to share what I’m letting go of in my new decade!
ONE: An Arbitrary Timeline
We (read: me) go through so much of life with these milestones/checkpoints/goals in mind, and if they don’t happen on “schedule” it can definitely make us feel like a failure of sorts. Well when I hit 30 last year I decided “No More!” No longer was I going to hold myself to timelines and checkpoints, I want to enjoy letting life unfold at its own pace and see God’s timeline come to life!
If you want to read more about this (so much on my heart!) you can check out the full post I wrote on “Following Your Arrow” here.
TWO: Other’s Expectations of What I Should and Should Not be Doing
I’m sure this is something that we all have experience with- people’s expectations for what we should be doing & what our lives should look like. I mean, if I had a dollar for ever time I heard “you should slow down,” “you should go out more,” “you should travel less,” “you should be trying more dating apps,” – the list could go on for days! But I’ve come to realize that others opinions are just that- THEIR’s and should not effect me and my expectations of myself. So I’m letting go of letting others define who I am and what I should be doing.
THREE: Anything that Ruffles my Feathers!
Call it the Italian in me, but your girl can certainly get yourself worked up if the right opportunity presents itself. But life is way to short to spend it all worked up, or to hold on to grudges or anger if any kind. So just like Elsa, let it go! Bye bye ruffled feathers – Life is much happier without ya!
My girls will all tell you this about me: I’m not a wallower! But y’all that wasn’t always the case… I defiantly used to hold onto all sorts of feelings and could wallow with the best of them. But sadness isn’t a good use of my time, and there’s so much out there to experience that I don’t want to spend it “in my feelings.” Lol! When I went through some recent disappointments I gave myself 24 hours to wallow- and then I was up and at ’em and getting back to enjoying the beauty in every day! (Ps- I know I have a more get up and go/roll with the punches personality than most, so this may be more of a lesson for myself than everyone else 😉)
FIVE: The Need to Always Have “more.”
To be honest this is still my biggest work in progress, but I am working every day on letting go of the need for “more.” By that I mean, the need for more things, more time, more achievements, more IG followers- more, more, more! It’s exhausting keeping up with it all, and I don’t want to do it anymore. Plus, that pursuit of more leads us to discontentment in the present, and as you can see from everything above Im doing is to enjoy the present moment and embrace the now! So goodbye “more!”